It's Totally Ok.
Here on the blog, I'd like to start a new recurring subject. Periodically I'd like to check in with y'all and re-affirm that some of the ways that you are feeling are A-Ok.
Why? Well, once upon a time I was going through a very rough time in my life and I had some big LIFE-ALTERING decisions to make. I was talking to a friend that is a life-coach, but I was paying her to be my life coach, NOT talk to me as a friend ( I needed some serious advice). When we got to the end of our conversation she said, "It sounds like you know exactly what you want to do, and what you are going to do--you just want someone to tell you that your decision is OK" And she was right, and even though it's silly, that was EXACTLY what I needed. So, here I am...paying it forward. (sorta)
So this week's 3 things that are OK:
1. It's OK if you don't like EVERYONE. We all know this situation. There's that one person in your group that for whatever reason, as hard as you try, they just GRATE ON YOUR NERVES. But, you feel guilty because really, you have no reason not to like them..and you feel like maybe your an a-hole because you have the grudge against them. Dude, it's cool. Don't worry about it. You don't have to like EVERYONE. Don't be rude to anyone, or cruel, but if they drive you nuts--accept it. Your going to waste more time on this than is necessary.
2. It's OK if you haven't done something in a while, you can still claim it.
What I mean is, if you haven't done yoga in a year and you still tell people you do yoga, it's fine. Same thing for calling yourself a runner if you haven't run in 6 months, or saying your into pilates, or rock climbing or whatever. Just because you didn't do something yesterday doesn't mean you have to close the door on it forever. If you haven't done yoga in 5 years, who knows, maybe you'll pick it back up next week...or you might never again. It's cool to still claim it as one of your activities.
3. Finally, it's OK to miss out on stuff.
Some friends of ours use the acronym FOMO a lot to describe that feeling we all know... Fear Of Missing Out. We're always worried that if we don't go to this party or this get together, or this event that we will have 'totally missed out' on something. Oh well. Sometimes Terrence and I get invited to so many things when we go it isn't even fun anymore because we're so TIRED. It's completely fine to 'miss out' on some fun sometimes. In fact, it's probably healthy not to go to everything and get a little down time in. (for your sanity). And if your friends stop inviting you to things because you missed out on a few, newsflash--they're not friends, so double don't worry about it.
Well, those are some of the worries I've had on my mind the last month or so, and maybe they're some of your baggage too. If you have any ideas for situations or ideas of things that you'd like to be freed from worrying about...let me know!